The advent of social media has radically changed the way we relate to each other. And not only that: it has also greatly changed the way we relate to ourselves. Because, even if we are not always aware of it, everything we say or do is subject to the judgment of others: the like. After all, this trend has also exploded in television programs where entertainment is now the talent show, that is, a place where you are judged for how you dance, sing, cook, breathe…
Basically, we are subjected to continuous judgments from people (not necessarily competent) and this can create insecurity and exacerbate the tendency to compare ourselves to others. If we then add the amount of fake perfection circulating online, we have the ideal mix for the collapse of our self-esteem. That’s why we need to be aware of the negative effect that social media can have on us. And use them with great caution.
Here are some tips to avoid falling into the social media trap:
Don’t be obsessed with likes
Even if it can be nice to receive appreciation for a photo, content, or tweet, the like should not become the measure of the value of what you post. It is not possible for every post to please people in the same way. Furthermore, what is interesting or beautiful to you may not be so for others. Last but not least, there will always be those who don’t want to give you the satisfaction of appreciating you… Keep going your own way!
Don’t compare yourself to other people’s profiles
Don’t make the mistake of comparing your life to that of others in general and, even more so, don’t do it using social media as a reference. There is so much fiction and ostentation online and real life is what happens “behind the scenes”.
Not pleasing everyone is a good thing
Especially if you use social media for work, it is normal that you are interested in the feedback you receive. Remember, however, that a good reputation is not built on quantity, but on quality. If you posted a photo in a swimsuit you would receive many more likes than a post on quantum mechanics. To be clear: better to be loved a lot by few than a little by many…
Haters who?
There are people who, instead of building their own lives, think about destroying those of others. And those are not the people you need. So ignore the ignorant! “Indifference is a f*** you in evening dress”.
Don’t “follow” too many people
Everything that takes up space unnecessarily also clutters the mind. Be selective and choose to follow only profiles that you consider interesting to you or that bring value in any form to your life (inspiration, irony, growth, lightness, culture, etc.).
Ask yourself what you want to share with the world
Once you have shared something, that something – in a sense – belongs to everyone. In a world where there are people who share unspeakable things, don’t forget the elegance of privacy. Not everything is for everyone.
Don’t spend too much time on social media
If you use social media as a pastime, set yourself a limit: by looking at other people’s projects, you risk taking time away from your own. And if you use social media for work, too. Get organized, get organized and get organized, remembering that social media are a means, not an end.
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“In all things there is a measure – Est modus in rebus”
Titus Maccius Plautus
