The first step towards your fulfillment is to love yourself. It is written everywhere, everyone says it, right? Yet, we don’t always follow this rule. Maybe because we don’t always know how to do it. After all, they don’t teach us it at school (too bad: they should!).
In order to love yourself you must respect yourself first. Love for oneself is not narcissistic, that is, it does not mean that you consider yourself the most beautiful, clever and intelligent of all. Loving yourself is being aware of your own value and making sure that this awareness guides you in all life’s choices.
I leave you 5 tips to start or continue to love yourself more and more.
1. Honor your wishes
You do not have to sacrifice all of your dreams because you have made certain choices. If, for whatever reason, you haven’t been able to fulfill your lifelong dream, look for others!
There are so many things you can still do. There are endless dreams you can still fulfill. Start by writing your wish list. What do you want to achieve in the next 5 years?
2. Don’t compare yourself to others
Yes I know: it’s not the first time you’ve heard it… but are you sure you’re not comparing your life or your achievements to someone else’s?
Remember that if you compare yourself to the people around you, you hurt yourself. You should rather learn to focus on yourself.
3. Enough of self-pity
“Self-pity is one of the most destructive non-pharmacological narcotics” (JW Gardner)
Complaining is useless, it has never served and never will. Become aware of your inner dialogue and take a look here: The superpower of inner dialogue.
4. Don’t care about judgments
If people think that you are crazy, reckless, indecisive, insane, inconsistent, insecure, shy, inappropriate, overweight, too thin well, you should not care!
Any advice (from those who love you, of course) is welcome, but at the end of the day, you know what makes you happy and what makes you feel good. So, make your decisions and to the extent that these choices do not negatively affect others, learn not to be emotionally influenced by their opinions!
There is always room for improvement. Don’t make the mistake of sticking to old thinking patterns, bad habits, or disempowering character flaws. Study yourself, examine yourself and if you find something you don’t like, correct yourself.
If there is something you would like to know, learn it!
It is not true that we cannot change.
We are what we choose to be.
“Fall in love with yourself, with life and then with whoever you want”